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Learning Through Play: Social-Emotional Development

Updated: Nov 1, 2023



In this series (Learning Through Play), we will explore how play can foster growth in a variety of developmental milestones including speech & language, physical, motor, emotional, and social skills.


Social-emotional skills are imperative for a child’s well-being. These skills help children: (1) express and manage their emotions, (2) understand social routines, (3) form and keep friendships, (4) resolve conflicts, and (5) feel empathy for others. Mastering these milestones will influence a child’s ability to explore and navigate relationships in a variety of social situations as they grow. One of the best ways to teach and practice these skills is through play with parents and peers.


Let’s talk about how play can impact your child’s emotional development…


Express and Manage Emotions

One of the primary ways play supports social-emotional development is by providing a safe and creative outlet for children to express their feelings. Using imaginative play, drawing, or storytelling, children can act out their emotions in order to gain a better understanding of them. When children are encouraged to play freely, they can practice navigating difficult emotions. This type of play can be especially helpful when dealing with challenging situations or changes in their lives.


Understand Social Routines

Play with peers often comes with unspoken or negotiated rules. Imaginative play with a group relies on everyone agreeing on a set of rules and boundaries for the play routine. Games include guidelines for fair play, winning, and losing. Following these rules helps children practice self-control and patience. Through games and play, children can learn to manage their emotions and behaviors.


Form and Keep Friendships

Whether children are playing with siblings, peers, or adults, these interactions enhance a child's ability to form and maintain relationships. Finding friends with similar interests and using cooperative play teaches children how to communicate effectively in order to take turns and resolve conflicts, all of which are vital for emotional development. Additionally, the positive experiences and connections formed during play can boost a child's self-esteem and sense of belonging.


Resolve Conflicts

Playing with others also involves problem-solving, which can have a positive impact on emotional development. When children are faced with challenges during play, they learn to persevere, adapt, and find creative solutions. This process fosters a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, contributing to emotional growth.


Building Empathy

Children learn to identify emotions through stories, play, and personal experiences. Play can allow children to step into different roles and perspectives, fostering empathy and understanding of others' emotions. When they engage in role-playing games or play with peers, they learn to consider other people's feelings and thoughts, promoting social and emotional intelligence.



The development of social-emotional skills is a lifelong process and children can progress at different rates. The key to using play to teach social-emotional skills is to make it enjoyable and age-appropriate. Be patient and create a safe and supportive environment where children feel free to explore and express their emotions through play. Here are some ideas for supporting your child’s social-emotional learning through play…


Emotional Expression: Help your child identify and label emotions in order to express their emotions in a healthy way. Validate their feelings and provide a safe place for them to talk about what they're experiencing.

  • Emotion identification - Use emotion words to describe what they might be feeling, and ask open-ended questions to prompt discussions about emotions.

  • Emotion bingo – Create a real-life emotion bingo board by collecting pictures of people displaying different emotions. Then call out the emotion as your child identifies the matching picture.

  • Emotion charades – Practice expressing emotions using a game of charades. Act out the emotion by using facial expressions and body language.


Social Stories: Use age-appropriate books and stories to explore emotions and social situations. Discuss the characters' feelings and how they handle various scenarios.

  • Storybook discussion – After finishing a story, take time to discuss the character’s emotions, motivations, and actions throughout the plot. Ask your child to think about how they might have reacted in a similar situation.

  • Storytelling – Encourage your child to create their own stories. Stories need a character, a setting, a problem, and a solution. Work with your child as you create an imaginative story and explore different emotional responses and outcomes.


Model Appropriate Behavior: Children learn by observing adults. Demonstrate the social-emotional skills you want them to develop through your own behavior and interactions.

  • Role-Playing - Engage in role-playing games where you and your child take on different social scenarios. This helps them practice different social responses, while watching your reactions and emotional choices.

  • Empathy - Foster empathy by discussing other people's feelings and perspectives. Ask questions like, "How do you think they feel?" or "What would you do if you were in their shoes?"


Self-Regulation: Help your child understand their emotions and how to manage them. Teach techniques like deep breathing, counting to ten, or taking a break to help regulate emotions.

  • Teach Coping Strategies - Teach your child healthy ways to cope with stress or challenging situations, such as drawing, journaling, or talking about their feelings.

  • Routine and Predictability - Establishing routines can provide a sense of security for children, making it easier for them to manage their emotions and behavior.


Open Communication: Create an open and non-judgmental environment where your child feels comfortable discussing their thoughts and emotions with you.

  • Active Listening - Teach your child the importance of active listening by modeling it yourself. Show them that you value their thoughts and feelings by giving them your full attention when they speak.


Social Play: Organize playdates and group activities to provide opportunities for your child to interact with peers. Playing with others helps develop cooperation, conflict resolution, and social skills.

  • Conflict Resolution - Teach your child healthy ways to resolve conflicts. Encourage them to discuss problems calmly, searching for appropriate solutions, rather than resorting to aggression.

  • Collaborative Games - Encourage your child to play together with others. Guide them through the process of identifying common interests, problems or issues, brainstorming solutions, and evaluating the outcomes.


Play provides a wealth of opportunities for emotional development, allowing children to express themselves, build empathy, manage stress, develop self-regulation, problem-solving skills, and enhance their social and creative abilities. As parents, caregivers, and educators, it is our responsibility to encourage and facilitate play in children's lives, recognizing its immense impact on their emotional growth and overall well-being. So, let's make playtime a priority and watch our children thrive emotionally and socially.


One last thing… If you notice persistent social-emotional challenges, consider consulting a pediatrician, therapist, or counselor for guidance and support.



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